In this post I wanted to touch on a sensitive subject. One about the passing on when we get older. To some this may be a sensitive issue so please only read if you are ready to hear my theories on the subject. The topic is in relation to the developing a better psychic connection before dying, allowing spirits to communicate more freely. This is turn creates a easier transition for many and allows us to let go better in this time of leave.. Part of the post is inspired by many testimonies and also from word from my grandad before passing..
Theories on Passing On.. And Dying..
Okay so let me begin.. One of the many popular theories on passing on in old age is as we get older the bone on the top of our head gets thinner, in a way very similar to how it was when we are a small baby and infant. (In reference to this the bone gets harder as we get older and for most of peoples lives it covers our head.) While many believe this has little relevance to anything, in the spiritual community it is often referred to our spiritual crown.. When it is more exposed it is believed a deeper connection is experienced. While unlocking psychic experience is still available to all this exposure in this area is believed to be a forced connection. Allowing us a deeper spiritual connection before death and also to communicate to the other side as well. A common one is seeing old relatives or random people who have just passed away..
Umm, Is Seeing Spirits Medical or NOT??
While to many this theory is quite controversial many studies have been done and many explanations by the medical industry have tried to hide it with a myriad of explanations. Some claiming reactions to medication causing mass hallucinations even where medications have no known hallucinatory factors. Another is the fuddy duddy explanation, saying well they are old so them seeing something is just one of those things. And the last one is they are old so there must be something we cannot see happening to the person (medically)..
Why so many go to so many lengths to hide the concept of a connection to the other side as the last option is beyond me.. It’s like as if that concept is put forth it is too much to handle or too much for the mind to grasp.. How much easier is it to just put it in that “oh i do not know what that is so let’s put it in the let’s not go there category..”
The Spiritual View on Death..
Okay so back to what is happening in a spiritual aspect, all around the world references to a spirit world being more visible before death is common.. Is it all a hallucination or is it what is happening you must ask..? Why could it not be a spiritual connection is more the answer we all should be looking at..
One such experience was with my grandad a few days before passing, he described flying around the hospital room. Seeing other people and even talking to them. When asked if this was a scary experience he quickly replied not at all.. He also appeared more happy when it did happen as well.. He was on no medication, had many tests all coming back as good, so is a hallucination likely..? Hmm i will let you decide there.. But i tend to believe this is a spiritual process to help the passing for a individual.
Recently i received an email from a reader saying a similar experience recently with her mum passing .. It is such a common aspect of life i believe. The list goes on and on.. What do you think, has something similar happened to someone you know who passed away?
I experienced this with my grandmother a few months before she passed away. She was sitting at her dining room table. She was unable to get around on her own, and before I sat down I asked her if she would like me to sit closer in a different chair. She was very hard of hearing. Anyway, she said no, Stanley is sitting there. Stanley was her husband that had died years prior. The chair was pulled out, and I had the feeling that someone else WAS there. When she said it, she looked over at the chair as if someone was in it.
Hey Crystal,
It’s always very comforting these sort of experiences as well as it helps them pass on at that age better. Thanks for sharing Crystal..!
hi timon,
i have started to keep a dream diary as of lately, as your dreams are meant to have significant meanings or so i have heard.
a really close friend of mine died last year from cancer, i was heartbroken when he died he was near the same age as me (20) and we and our families were close.
when i herd he died i was shattered physically and emotionally.
a few weeks ago i had a dream, i never expierenced anything like it.
my friend who passed away his name was francis.
in my dream my sister and I were attending a wedding.
however we were late to the wedding so we ran up the aisle and nearlly skidded past the alter.
so we slid into a seat and i endued up sitting beside my cousin.
my cousin trish who never knew francis.
in my dream francis and trish were getting married, but francis died prior to the wedding so instead they had a couple playing their roles at the wedding ceremony.
in my dream my cusin trish then looked at me and said ”do you like my shoes,they match my socks”
then i suddenly woke up and i got a breeze almost like someone was breathing heavily on me which travelled very slowly from my toes to my face.
i was shocked i lay still in shock.
i didnt move for a moment and just stayed still, the breath or breeze was so strong.
i then got up to see if my windows were up and they were all closed.
i had pjamas on and was under my duvet so i definatly was not cold.
my mother believes it may have been fran letting me know he was okay as he is nearlly a year dead now.
have you any further suggestions???
hey Jennifer,
Yeah i agree with your mum, dreams can create connections between people that have passed on. If it happens again try to ask a question, you may get a response. Francis passed away so young, maybe he wished to tell you something before he leaved. One thing to note is time is theorised to be different in the after life. A year can be nothing or even many years can seem like a short time to a spirit..
I hope that helps.. What do you think..?
hey Timon i have a special gift it has been passed down to me from my mother i see earth bound spirts some times they are friendly and some times they are dark. my adopted sister and i spend a lot of time together we go every place together there is a road that we use to go down as of lately we have had to find another route when we go down that road my stomich knots up and i get a bad headache most of the time i see a pair of red eyes following me on that road. what ever it is it is trapped on that road i have heard stories about witches using dark magic down there i truely believe that they opened a dark door to which they are not able to close just wondering what your feelings are about that.
Hey Robbie,
Nice share, sounds like what you are referring to is a powerful spirit. Maybe even it is being used by a sorcery or witch to protect a place and in this case possibly a road. By you getting sick from it indicates you are spiritually sensitive which is a gift however needs to be enhanced as well. What i would do is work on your protection energy that way if and when it happens you can cope better.
With seeing the Red Eyes often a spirit or energy will take the form of what you will fear more or what you feel more comfortable with in a positive situation. In the negative side it takes on what you fear. Let me know what you think here..?
If you do decide to take that route again try a positive meditative protection over the car and yourself to see if it helps..
my grandmother passed away 1 week ago. she was only 60 and had a heart attack. she was mobile. on the day she died she was fine, she travelled on the bus to 2 of her childrens’ homes and then decided to go into town too. As she left her daughters house she said ‘look how late u’v made me, there are so many people here and at the bus stop, i’ll never get a seat’ When my aunt looked out the doorway to see how many people there were there was 1 old lady standing at the bus stop, no one else was to b seen. she just laughed n thought her mum was being silly or something. few hours later gran passed away.
Nice share Molly,
Sounds exactly like she was mentioning spirits, coming to aid her transition.
My mother passed last year and was sick for about a year before her passing. The last 6-7 months or so of her illness completely took away her independence. It was hard and painful and how she went was one of the worst kind of ways: the kind where the body just completely fails and shuts down over time. I was living with her while going to a local university and by default became her primary caretaker and witnessed the full extent of her suffering. Before the doctors even started talking about “end of life preperations” I knew she was going to die. I knew it because a few months before she died she started to see my father (he had passed two years prior) and her parents. She called me into her room one night and said “Don’t be scared, but do you see your father sitting in the corner?” and I did not. I should say this, my family has a history of psychic abilities, not enough to open a shop or anything but enough to know that there are somethings that rational logic can not even come close to explaining and shouldn’t. So when she said this I knew, with a down-to-my-bones certainty, that she wasn’t going to make it. She was bed-ridden at that time and told me he would always appear by her side either sitting on the floor or on the bed and sometimes he would talk to her and on one occassion said “You have to come with me”. I do agree that this could be a transitionary phenomena because prior to my mother seeing my father she was agitated and fearful but after seeing her passed loved ones she became more calm and at peace. Now some might say she was conjuring them up in her mind in order to deal with her own death but I am hesitant to agree. The last month of her life was spent in a hospital and she started seeing other spirits. She kept telling me of conversations she had with her roommate but she had a room to herself for nearly two weeks and she kept seeing patients wandering the hall that no one could see. That’s the experience I’ve had with this subject, thanks for writing on the it.
Hey Alicia,
I agree that is a transitional spiritual experience and not in the mind. Spirits from the other side help the transition easier is my belief. Unfortunately medically this subject will always be a debate unless of course you have experienced it or close to experience it like in your experience. Thanks for sharing.
It is 4:30 a.m. and I am about 300 or so miles away from my grandmother who is 94 and currently what I believe to be dying. My cousin has been staying with her over the last year as my grandmother’s health has been declining. She has called me this evening very afraid as she is alone with her and my grandmother has spent the entire evening carrying on conversations with people that my cousin cannot see. At this point and time it is not anyone that we are familiar with. The unusual thing is that my grandmothers dog who is about 13 years old appears to be dying tonight as well. My cousin has observed my grandmother reaching into the air and petting something. Is it possible that both my grandmother and her dog and moving in and out of the spirit world? Would a dog sense it’s owner’s impeeding death and prepare to die too?
Hey Jackie,
Yes I believe animals such as dogs are more tuned to this than humans. Most humans are blocked in many ways by the power of the mind. It sounds to me like maybe the dog is experiencing the same as well, like a connection. It is not unusual in spiritual cultures, animals have high connection to us as well and can tune into our spiritual experiences. Especially considering it is her dog.
I work in an assisted living facility, midnight shift by myself (only staff on the floor). I’ve always been very sensitive and believe in spirits that are left here after death. Working midnight shift by myself in an assisted living facility has always scared me, its always on my mind that when i turn my head a spirit or ghost will be standing there, its a constant worry of mine. I’ve worked there since Feb of 2009 and over the past two weeks i’ve caught empty hangers moving on the laundry carts but thought nothing of it. Then this past Saturday night, I was sitting at the desk doing paperwork and I had a load of laundry hung up on the laundry cart about 20 ft from where I was sitting. I caught it moving out of the corner of my eye, I had heavy laundry hung up on these hangers…sweat shirts, pants ext and they were moving back and forth all at the same time a good 2″ ..it could not have been the wind. So i looked at the cart for a good two minutes straight…then heard a voice in my ear say “what”…it was a female voice and i know what i heard. I jumped up right then and ran over to the nursing home side of the building and stood over there for several minutes trying to catch my bearings. Came back over to my assisted living section where i worked and was very on edge all night, finally one of the other residents who was more alert (most of our assisted living residents are more nursing home type people..) came out and sat in the hallway with me which made me feel better. That morning i went in at 7am to wake up one of our residents who just came back from the nursing home about two weeks ago. He is normally not alert at all, he came back hospice care and we all knew he did not have long left. He was awake and alert staring at the ceiling which creaped me out. Asked him what he was staring at and he said “the lady”…i ran out and got the morning lady who comes in at 6am and brought her in to just confirm i wasnt crazy and she asked him what he was staring at agian he said “the lady”.
Last night he passed away, i was driving by the facility around 8pm and seen the cop and ambulance there, i txt the girl that was working and asked her what was going on..she said he had passed away.
hello. i am 14 years old.. and i have seen spirits since i have woken up this morning. i was looking at it on the internet and decided to do research. i can see them.. hear them.. feel them. they dont harm me. i need help, i dont know what to do. i dont know if this is normal..
My mother had complications due to diabetes and died of cardiac arrest. Seconds before that, she looked at me and said words I didn’t understand. It was two long sentences. It kinda like what that dying old lady said to Brad Pitt in Meet Joe Black. Was she hallucinating?
Hey Eu,
The mind can do many things before dying, but is up to you what you believe. Personally i believe commonly any form of passing on is spiritual so it sounds like a spiritual experience.
hey Timon i’m only 13 and i keep on having hallucinations of black figures or faces varying from looking at me to minding there own bisness at first i thought they were just my mind but i have a mate who sometimes sees the exact same thing as me at the exact same time. whatever i see also sometimes hear, (they somtimes tell me stuff but in diffrent languages) i have lots of scary stuff stuff hapen to me like hear breathing, or see coulors ( i wonder if there ouras sometimes) i don’t know what to make of it and its been getting worse over the last year or so, i was wondering you had any comment cause i cant even sleep in the dark anymore.
Hi Rebecca,
Thanks for your comment. Try not to fear these occurances, it could be the mind manifesting it based on fear. Instead record down when it happens in a journal and try to see patterns to when it happens.. If you really do think it is a haunting then maybe contact a psychic and get there opinion on it.. As a tip ask it to move to the light next time it happens as sometimes this helps spirits move on.. I hope this helps..
I am talking to my mother she takes care of her husbands mother and today she called me freaking out because she said she saw a man sitting at the end of this terminal ladies bed. And she said that when she was visiting me and her husband was the only one home with his mother he heard his mother talking in her sleep and swore that he heard a man reply. She also claims to hear my mom singing all the time even when she was here. And once she said she saw my mom and her sons x wife at the end of her bed and it made her happy. She has a brain tumor but won’t take most of the medication. I don’t know if she is hallucinating but its what they see as well that freaks them out. I don’t understand and if you could email me to let me know that would be wonderful. Thank You my email is ashleyandchinopreciado@yahoo.com if anyone has any answers.
Timon:
What you have written is quite fascinating to me. I was on the web searching for this phenomenon and crossed your article. My husbands folks passed away when he was 11. My husband now takes care of the gentleman that helped raise him and he is 89. Recently, there have been times out of the corner of my eyes that I have seen him walking to another part of the house fully knowing that the gentleman is in his room.
Have you heard of this happening. I am very perplexed by it.
Hi Deanna,
Yes this is a common occurrance from many testimonies as a similar case. Spirits from studies into paranormal, are shown to be more commonly seen by those at that age..
what does it mean if you see a black dog when you are dying is this bad?
Hey Katie,
I am unsure what that means exactly..
I have a family member that is very sick in the hospital, and the last few days he has been saying that he sees people and kids that he doesn’t know. Is it possible that these are angels watching over him, or is it possible that he is having psychic connections before he passes on.
My boyfriend’s grandmother recently died, she had Alzheimer’s and had been sick for about a year and a half. His grandfather had a hard time with it for reasons we all understood, they were high school sweethearts and married for about 50 years. His grandfather is now struggling with cancer, yesterday he had a doctors’ appointment and there is nothing they can do for him. He is too weak for Kemo and he is ready to go. This morning he told my boyfriend’s uncle that he had a visitor, and then pointed to a picture of his wife. His grandfather told his uncle that today was the day. I think he will be around for a little longer but as soon as I heard this I had to research on it. From reading this, I now believe that it is possible for the dead to try to make a comfortable passing for the dying. Thanks (:
Hi Timon,
I just stumbled on your blog and I am…not sure what word I’m looking for to describe it but…in need of advice.
My grandmother passed away two years ago from lung cancer. Over the past 2 years I have had a couple of dreams about her and had the feeling that she was telling me everything was okay (won’t go into the dreams now but they were quite vivid). Also, every now and then, I smell her (she had a very distinct scent). This hasn’t happened since August, but there is no mistaking it. The last time, I was in my room on a cruise ship. The smell doesn’t last long, but it is her. What are your thoughts on this?
Also, my father is nearing the end of his 2 year battle with lung cancer (yes, he was diagnosed 3 months before my grandma passed). Lately he claims to be having dreams and seeing shadows and figures while he is awake. In fact, he built a coat rack to put against a wall where one “person” frequently stands so they wouldn’t be able to stand there anymore. He doesn’t see a face and doesn’t know who they are. They are telling him to get ready in his dreams. He swears that my grandma was sitting on his bed rubbing his arm one night as well – that was the first time he slept through the night in months. The next day, his medium friend called him to say he had had a visit. What does this all mean!?!?!
I believe that my grandma is around – I think there is validity to this, but the more real it becomes the more answers I need. What do you think? Thank you so much!
Hi Marisa,
Thanks for visiting the Occult Blogger. It sounds like your grandmother is watching over you and your father. This is not uncommon. The smell you experience is her way of letting you know it is her, her way of communication. I am sorry to hear your dad has lung problems as well. It sounds like the spirits are telling your dad to get ready for passing on, in a lot of testimonies worldwide this is a common transition. People being helped pass on. I hope this helps.
Hey Timon. I’ve been having strange incidences with my grandma. A few months before she passed on, she said that she kept feeling that I was putting my hands on her head. She described the day somewhat similarly to the day she passed away. I saw a dream about exactly what happened two nights before. That day of the incidence, She was trying to tell me something, but she was unable to get the words out. Anyways so that night, I heard knocks on my door. Since then, I’ve felt like she is trying to say something, but something is stopping her. What do you think I should do?
Hey Riz,
It could be that she is trying to pass on a message before moving on. It sounds like that. Try to talk to her next time you hear her again and then if you want tell her to move on so she can fully pass on.
Thanks Timon. Ill definitely try talking to her.
Timon,
I dont think I have any special senses but i am starting to wonder. My father, who was a strong young 72 yrs old man had a 6 hr surgery. He was recovering well at home except for one thing. He kept mentioning dark shadows. sometimes things crawling and sometimes just a shadow. I told him it was too long (3weeks) after anesthesia for it to be any drugs. he was taking no pain meds. Thinking back now, he did seem afraid, depressed,withdrawn. I feel horrible for brushing it off. The day he passed he had been in the ER 14hrs but was apparently “fine” according to Drs. No one could explain why he had an episode of shortness of breath and sweating. I was at work 30 min away, my brother, sister, husband & mother were with him. he got up to use bathroom and when entered he told nurse” i dont feel well”. and coded. I was about to leave work and my husband said come NOW. I know what that means since i’m a nurse. I screamed, NO. and started to leave. But, again, thinking back. a few minutes before the call i had a feeling i’ve felt before when my aunt died and my grandfather. It was a surreal second of a fluttering,shaking, take my breath away kind of moment. what is that? Also, i dont know about the whole shadow thing. I do remember, although i dont kow if it was before he mentioned it to me or after that one night i woke up and i saw a shadow hovering up at the foot of my side of the bed. i stared at it for a bit. I am sure it was there and i was awake. then suddenly it swooped down and through me. i actually felt it. it didnt hurt me but i was freaked out. i know i mentioned it to my family but i didnt connect it until now. what is the shadow. a medium told my mother the shadow was an angel. not to hurt him and not malevolent but yo let him know it was close. have you heard of this? My sister also saw this shadow one day when she was at our parents house. She thought it was defiantly standing there but again the medium mentions that it was there to wait. im totally freaked out over this.
When my father passed in Dec., 2006 I was prevented from being with him, but was able to talk to him about ten days before his death. I told him I wanted to come see him but he told me the time for visits was over but perhaps he could visit me. I didn’t understand him and I asked him to repeat himself. He brushed me off and old me he was going to be fine. When he died, my daughter was very upset and wanted to sleep in my bed so I consented. three days after his death, I felt like someone was trying to wake me. Thinking it was my daughter, I started to stir and heard my dad “shush” me. I called out to him and he told me sleep. then he said, “your going to be okay, as long as you stick together, your going to be fine. Take care of her, I’m fine.” I tried to wake my daughter, but she was sound asleep.
In Sept. of 2007 I was diagnosed with cancer. While I was going through treatment, I had periods when I would get very weak and sick. I started seeing people in odd places like the passenger seat of my car, standing in the corner of the room, back of the garage, ect.. I didn’t know these people and if I did a double take, they weren’t there. My docter told me I was just under stress. Around Aug., I was resting and again, I heard my father. I was really sick and sore so I didn’t roll over. His voice was stern and he told me ” you need to take care of this, see someone else and get it done” I sought a second opinion and had surgery a month later. I haven’t seen or heard anything since I don’t know what to make of this
I work in a hospice facility. It is common place to have patients talk about seeing “the dog.” Sometimes it appears as black, other times white and last night I had a patient say,”Look at the pretty dogs.” The dog seems very comforting for patients. I have never known an instance where someone has been distressed by it. Patients also talk about “going home” and seeing family members who have died. Pretty amazing stuff.
Hi,
My sister died on november 22, 2010. Although she was recovering from her brain stroke and we were very hopeful of her recovery but sadly she left us due to pulmonary embolism. Although i reached in emergency room after she went in to comma but the nurse was telling me that when they were getting her to hospital she was concious and was frigthened and kept mentioning that there are people who have come to kill her, she mentioned specifically about a women and she shouted to the nurse ,’get my mother, this women is here to kill me.’
I am freaked out after hearing this, why is her death trasition was scary and painful? she was afraid of death and always used to afraid of being alone. I just hope that she is ok .. Me and my mother have experienced some unexplained phenomina after that like an intoxicating and very pleasing smell which last for a few minute… and coldness around my elbow as if a cold thing has wrapped around it. Do you think that is her? My only concern is that she suffered a lot in this life i want her after life to be peaceful and calm.. is there a way to find that out?
my son is 20 it is Dec the 15Th 2010. he told me today that he had been seeing his uncle Mark who had passed 20 years ago. My brother passed Jan. 1990 my son was born Feb. 1990. he said he only sees him at my moms house where he stays with my mom who is 75. he said he sis in a chair beside my mom but says nothing and is dress in a plaid work shirt and tie up boots with a mustache and shoulder length hair. just like my brother which he had never seen. Can you tell me what this means. he said it has just started this month. my brother died Jan. 1st 1990 but he was injured on the day after Christmas DEC 26Th 1989 and was brain dead til he flat lined new years morning. I’m thinking this is not a good sing for my son. My son needs to be saved also i think it might be a sing that my mom might be passing or something might is gonna happen to my son and he is trying to warn him or trying to tell him something. what do you think….
Donna Wesson.
I had an outer body experience, when I was about 7 years old. I was living with my aunt, and she was a very, religious woman, every other day was church for us. One day we came home from church, and I was very exhausted so, I decided that I wanted to go to sleep, but before I went to sleep, my aunt was on the side of the bed praying as always!! As I feel into a deep sleep, I was awaken, for sure my physical body was asleep, because I saw myself lying on the bed sleep, but when I looked over towards the door, I saw three, small, red spirits, like balls, coming up the stairs. They didn’t have no body form to them. I was very scared and tried to wake up my aunt but because I was experiencing an outer body experienced my arm when right through her, but I could hear her praying, and before you know it, I was awaken, and when I woke up she was still in the same praying position she was in when I was having the outer body experience!! I don’t know what this means, but I was in the same house, and I heard some noise in the basement and no one was in the house but my uncle and I, not to mention that, he was crippled and could not get around without assistance and the banging noise came from the basement as if something was trying to come through the walls but it scared the crap out of me!!!!!! Do I have capabilities to tap into a spiritual realm or what????? I wanna know!!!!
My mother passed away on May 24th,2011. She was diagnosed as having early Alzheimer’s but her only real issues were the short term memory. A few months before she died she started to occasionally see people sitting in the room with her. I really thought it was some kind of hallucination dementia related issue. It got worse and worse and she started to see people regularly and every and sometimes all day. Of course no one else saw these people. She contracted pneumonia and went into the hospital. She passed away 3 days later ans now I believe that this wasnt the Alzheimer’s but her seeing spirits. The day before she went into the hospital She said a little boy she kept seeing finally spoke to her. Before she has said that none of these people she was seeing spoke to her but now the little boy spoke and he asked her when they were leaving.
I wish I had recognized this as her time to leave our earth.
I lives with my mom every day for the past 40 years and will miss her everyday.
What do you think? How can I increase my chances to speak or hear from her in the afterlife?
Hi Dawn,
Close your eyes, say what is in your heart to her. She will hear you. The more frequent you talk to her, the more aware you will become.
I see your post is nearly a month old. Fourty years is a long time to spend with someone. It’s a lifetime for many. Sounds like you really miss your mom. Grief can be so devastating at times. I believe we can speak to those who have passed simply by speaking from our heart. While you may not be as aware of her right now, it doesn’t mean she isn’t aware of you
I’m sorry your mom passed away so quickly. Have faith she watches over you from another place. May your heart heal and may you feel her love always with you((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Dawn)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) you are not alone.
My husband is in the late stages of cancer andI was laying in bed with my husband late at night when I saw a white figure pulling at his feet. I was scared as I felt that they were there too take him away. I yelled at them to leave and they disappeared. I couldn’t sleep for the next few days incase they came back. He has been yelling at people to go away over the last few days. Who are these people?
Hi, ok it was about 3 in the morning and i had got a call from my boyfriend, who was freaking out and saying that him and his friend had seen dead ppl in the ditch, and they kept walking, but they realized what they had seen and walked back but they were gone, so they walked around to the other side and they seen them walkin through the dark. He had told me there were 5 of them, 3 girls and 2 boys, the girls were 11, 15, and 17 the boys were 13, and 18. He had told me he could only remember the name of the 15 year old girl which was sierra. He said they had black eyes and a smile that he had never seen before, and they were cold. He also told me that they had wanted them to follow them but he said no because all that was in front of them was the dark forest, his friend and him walked home as fast as they could, and they were so shaken and couldnt sleep so there is no way they were faking this experience. What do you think?